…but really, even when it seemed like i was doing nothing at all (and when i believed i was doing nothing at all), i was actually hard at work on the real labor of your twenties -figuring out who you actually are.

guess why this is the most important thing you have to do in your twenties? because you are you forever! jobs end or change. spouses die or leave you for girls who used to date charlie sheen. but you are always going to be you, and serious time and energy investment into figuring out who you are, what you stand for, and what you believe, is important.

…so, in the risk of sounding like a high school guidance counselor: spend your twenties learning how to truly listen to your heart. and also, how to mentally block out trend pieces about the importance of reaching specific life milestones in a timely fashion.

…and all you have to do, to get to know yourself deeply, and make real, informed choices about what will actually make you happy and fulfilled in a life that goes on for about seven more decades that no one ever writes trend pieces about, is: let it happen, and try very hard to not get in your own way.

gabrielle moss | “oops, i accidentally wasted my entire 20’s (and i feel fine)” | thought catalog (emphasis my own)